I’m about to do the unthinkable. I never thought this day would come, to be honest. I had to think about it for a couple of months, weigh the pros and cons, and seriously consider the fact that I just might be certifiably insane. What would I be missing? Would my life be over? What the hell will I do with myself? How will I survive? Then it struck me like a lightning bolt. These thoughts are precisely why I need to do this. I need to shut down my Facebook page. That’s right. I said it. I’m shutting it down. Not permanently…I’m not that loony. The plan is to shut it down for the summer.
For the most part, I have enjoyed Facebook over the past few years. I’ve gotten to know people better, and I like that I can see what’s going on, and share in people’s life events. But over the past year or so, I’ve found myself more and more irritated with the nonsense and insignificant dreariness that people feel the need to share with the world. I’m confident that I can make it through my day without knowing where people ate dinner the night before, what cashier is out sick at the local Walmart, and whose kid saved the world from some imminent disaster. I can manage to drink my morning coffee without seeing someone’s 137,868th selfie or picture taken by their bff. Here’s a newsflash: We all know what you look like…you haven’t changed since yesterday. I’m also confident that I can survive, and so too will other people survive, if I don’t share the crap I share, too. Facebook is ultimately a crapfest of who did more, who did it better, who looks better, who went more places, who has a better imaginary life, who has a smarter kid, not to mention those awesome vague posts that are simply an attention-getting tactic. I need a break. I spend more time being irritated than I do enjoying.
As I thought about doing this, I realized I need a plan. I can’t just go cold turkey without figuring out a way to spend my time sans FB. At first, I was almost in a panic and came very close to ditching the whole idea. Then I thought, what did we all do before the internet and social media? We all managed to have a life before Facebook was invented. So, I made a plan. This summer, I am going to do the many things I’ve claimed I didn’t have time for over the past several years. I am going to read as many books as I can. I am going to go to the gym several times a week. My family joined the YMCA, and my kids are just as eager to go exercise as I am. We are also doing a major nutritional overhaul in our house…no more junk food or processed food. Well, occasional junk food. Let’s be realistic. I used to draw and do artistic things. I want to start drawing again. I find it incredibly relaxing and enjoyable. I lose hours at a time, just by creating a drawing. I also want to get my house in order so it’s not an embarrassment when people drop by. I HATE cleaning, so if I get it cleared out and have a plan to keep it up, it will free up time to do the things I enjoy. I want to get back to nature by going to the beach, going on hikes, or just sitting outside and reading. I want to spend more time with my kids and give them my full attention. I want to write.
I’m sharing this all through my blog for two reasons. One, it’ll keep me honest. If you all know I’m ditching facebook, then you will also know if I sneak back on. I don’t have the self-control to do this on my own. I need to be able to tell myself that I’ll look like a spineless moron if I don’t do it. It’s the embarrassment factor, which is always a good way for me to not do something. The second reason is that this is all part of an experiment that I will be writing a blog post on in September. The experiment is just to see if I can do it, and what I can accomplish by getting rid of a serious time suck in my life. If I can do it, other people can, too. Life is too short to waste time reading about what other people are doing. Life is about going out and doing. If I die tomorrow, I will be much more satisfied that I spent today sitting on the beach, reading a book, talking to my kids, and enjoying all of OUR moments.
You may be crazy but not because of this. 😉 It’s a very good idea (just don’t go so far away that we can’t touch base with you when we need a laugh). It feels like something where you might be in the first wave of society changing again. We all still want to stay connected, but maybe not in the 100 percent ‘in your face’ Facebook way. You sound like you’re going to have a great summer. 🙂
No worries, Lori! I will still be a regular at mymedia!
I can totally relate. Though I haven’t quit fb for the summer, I will be taking breaks from it. The sun is shining. It’s too nice to be inside on the computer for hours on end! I’ve even backed off on the amount I’m writing right now. Let’s enjoy summer for the few short months it’s here! 🙂
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, Peggi! Enjoy your summer.
i am new here. I quit FB last year for quite awhile and really it was not all that hard after stopping the habit of going there.. I only got back on because of my husband had this HUGE surgery for pancreas cancer and I needed help on how to care for him. For now he is doing well. Cancer free but we never know when the other shoe will drop. We walk a slippery slope as I am sure many here also do. I am still his caregiver although now he can take care of his personal needs. I am still the total household caregiver too. He is good but not feeling good enough to go back to his share of chores. He is 74 and I am almost 65.
I think you inspired me to back away from FB now I am not in as much need as I was a year ago. I already stopped responding to any drama and most of those how to live your life photos every one wants you to share if you believe in them. I clench my teeth on those because I do not want to be told what to share. And yet if the link to your blog had not been shared I would not have come here or known about your space.
i did join a couple of groups on FB for my own enjoyment because I am an artist in my own insane way. Some might not consider my work art. LOL Ask me if I care. That would be NO. So I am torn do I walk away from things I enjoy just because they are on FB? I think the easiest way for me would be to stop all notifications other than the groups I enjoy or just go to the groups when I feel like it and maybe have lunch with them kind of thing.
Wishing you all the best in your resolve. I enjoyed reading some of your blog and will mark it to come back to but even though it is 10 PM I still have laundry to hang on the line and dishes to do. Early doctor appointment to go to for the Mr.
Hi Chris. Thank you for reading my blog. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I’m sorry to hear about your husband, but glad he is doing better! There are definitely good things about facebook, and I plan on returning, but I wanted to take the summer off to get some other things done. The one thing it hurts by not being on FB is my blog…I don’t get nearly as many “hits” when I can’t share on FB.